Keep thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend. The hard part of the conversation is that the problem isn't really her, it's that I don't know if I want a serious long term relationship right now. Hard to shake the voice in my head saying leave. Turned down that company job transfer.
Is it possible to have it be a long term relationship without it being serious? Would that help? I have a lot of flexibility being single, and losing that would be a fear of mine. But there must be some middle ground.
Well, I guess I've always considered those two things to go hand in hand. Can you elaborate?
I guess, to be in the relationship but to have a mutual understanding that there's little expectation of doing couple-y things. I'm not sure if it would work; both people would need to be on board with it or one could be offended. But it would be, like, Friday night and don't want to eat home alone? Text the girlfriend and see if she's interested in going out. But similarly if you want to get up early to run Saturday morning, there's no expectation of being a couple just because it's Friday night, and if she texts you, it's ok to say no. Maybe one or the other people end up frustrated with it, but if it's an option of ending it or trying a different approach, maybe it's an option. Caveat: I'm very single and probably the last person in the world to give advice.
Reminds me of a line from Shakespeare's Julius Caesar (Act 2, Scene 1, 65-67) And the first motion, all the interim is Like a phantasma or a hideous dream.Hard to shake the voice in my head saying leave.
Have you talked about it?Between the acting of a dreadful thing