Silly rabbit. First off, CONGRATULATIONS. I'm glad neither of you feel any different. That bodes well.

Some helpful advice? The reason you don't feel any different is this isn't news to you it's news to everyone around you. A marriage isn't really a deal between you and your spouse so much as it's a deal between you and your spouse and society. As such, you will experience less friction if you look at everything through the lens of "what would my casual friends and family think?"

Which is not to say you aren't driving the bus... but how you choose to conduct yourself through this awkward engagement period is pretty much a choice as to how you wish to present the union to those around you. And societal expectations are pretty set on "don't bury the lede." It makes people feel awkward. Celebrations aren't for us, they're for the people around us and you don't want to deny people the right to celebrate with you (on your terms - but you have to give them the notice).

Also - don't go with the ring you want. Go with the ring she wants. TRUST ME ON THIS.

From what I know jewelry is largely designed in Rhino these days.