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kleinbl00  ·  2320 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Why driverless cars will be the next battlefield in the culture war

An observation, since I've been shouted out like three times here:

goobster, rd95, veen but directed entirely at rd95:

- You may be fascinated by all this and use it as a means to knowledge, but if your counterpart isn't enjoying it, you lose. When your style of discussion revolves around "here's a counterargument to what you just said" the conversation will necessarily focus on shutting down, not opening up.

- You may browse Wikipedia to find answers but the people you're talking to just know shit. So while you getting an argument countermanded reads as "I guess I didn't understand the argument" to you, to your counterparts it reads as "you don't know shit, here let me pull something tangential off of Wikipedia to shut you down."

- You may think that "please continue" is rude but "I'm going to attempt to close off other avenues of discussion" is ruder.

This discussion is likely relevant to your interests. Veen and I get along really well and damn near came to blows over the concept of "mapping." This is due because he's neck-deep into the theory of mapping and my experience has been with the practice of mapping and we were talking across each other for entirely too long. Here's a great highlight:

    The "arrogant" engineers are the ones that know they know more than you and are sick of having to explain it. They're the ones whose knowledge is called into question because somebody just did a study somewhere. They're the ones being forced to (temporarily) rewrite their entire code of behavior because some expert somewhere in another unrelated field has better PR.

NASA scientist sick of debunking Planet X doomsday theories

Word to the wise: when you start to suspect that you're talking to an expert, start to respect the expert's expertise. It isn't just you and Wikipedia making conversation, it's "how can I continue this discussion without being one of those assholes that drives expertise off the internet." Wanna see what it looks like when a skunk raises its tail?

    This is not true at any scale.

    I work for Continental Corporation, and Daimler Trucks North America.

That's a cat with it's hair up, a pufferfish puffed, a dog growling around a hambone. The Internet think that it's the "appeal to authority fallacy" because Reddit et. al. have created a world where having expertise is somehow a losing proposition but in the non-internet world, knowing shit still counts for something.

And I know you didn't mean to discount the knowledge of the people you were talking to. That's totally not you. But it doesn't take much. Everybody I know who knows audio avoids the shit out of gearslutz... and they'd perish the thought of visiting Reddit. I among them.

It's no fun being told you're full of shit by someone who is clearly, plainly, demonstrably full of shit. And if you're the expert and they're not, they know you're full of shit long before you do.





user-inactivated  ·  2320 days ago  ·  link  ·  

goobster, veen, for some reason I let myself get dogged on this and I chose the worse time to be dogged on something because my head is fuzzy and it obviously shows and while that's a reason it's not a good excuse because this all turned into a big mess and I can't help but feel guilty for making you guys angry and so I'm really, really sorry.

kleinbl00, sorry for shouting out to you if you thought I was trying to drag you into this. I wasn't. I just always use the "@" symbol when mentioning a specific user on here because I don't want people to think I'm talking about them behind their back.

I really and truly feel bad about getting out of hand and I feel really childish and I'm incredibly embarrassed and I respect the hell out of the three of you and I'm honestly so truly sorry and if there's anything I can do to make it up to any of you just let me know and I'll see what I can figure.

Edit: And sorry to Hubski as a whole for making a shit show to witness to begin with.

kleinbl00  ·  2320 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Hush, kid. Ain't nobody mad. Veen shouted me out at least once. Don't sweat it.

Merely chiming in in the interests of furthering communication next time, yo. Chillax. It's Sunday.

goobster  ·  2320 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Hey man... THANK YOU. That's a truly generous thing to say, and I appreciate it.

I haven't logged into Hubski all weekend because I was fully expecting to be either blocked (again), or have some real nastiness to address when I got here. I didn't want to argue any more, and didn't know how to unwind where we had gotten to...

Thanks for getting BOTH of us out of this unpleasantness, with grace and style. I really appreciate it.