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PTR  ·  244 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: November 15, 2017

Hi all. Hubski newb-ish. Long-time lurker with a recent lapse during school. But I'm aware of the etiquette and most of the personalities here.

Pubski's new to me though - share updates like bar talk?

My wife and I started our first full-time jobs this year. We got married this year too. Moved to a new city this year. Graduated this year. Wrote our theses in Spring this year. "This year" feels like ages ago. Anyone else feel like that?

I think a lot of people struggle during their first year of marriage. I've seen a lot of our couple friends get into bad situations with each other immediately after getting married. If that's true, it's not hit us yet. Despite a lot of firsts, a lot of new experiences, a lot of uncertainty, we're solid. I'm very thankful for this woman. We're headed to London for Christmas (that's another first for me, traveling outside the country). Let's hope the first-year blues don't settle in then!

We're going drinking this weekend on that grown-up, salaried cash before we spend next week apart while she's at a conference. Pubski's got me anticipating that a bit early. I ought to get the wife on here too - her job's got a beer tap in the break room (juicy startup bennies).

Cheers, all.

lil  ·  244 days ago  ·  link  ·  

We welcome you and await wife.

goobster  ·  243 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Welcome to our little sanctuary!

Sounds like this year has been one for the record books, my friend!! As life settles down to a normal pace and pattern over the coming year, you two will need to make conscious decisions and have clear conversations. There has been a whole lot of "noise" in your life this year, and that can drown out the little squeaks and klunks from places where the machinery of life operates.

As things quiet down, these little squeaks and klunks will need to be addressed. Best you do that as a team, approaching these maintenance issues together, rather than saying things like, "Geez. I never noticed how loud you chew. That's really annoying."


Enjoy London! Oh... and I was just there. If you have the chance, take a tour of Shakespeare's Globe Theater. Get Millie as your tour guide, if you can. It is a fascinating place, and she is a bring and shining spark, who absolutely adores the place, the history, and the theater in general. Her enthusiasm for the place is infectious.

PTR  ·  242 days ago  ·  link  ·  

We've been shamelessly soliciting to-do items from everyone - it's why I mentioned it above :) I'm pretty sure we're getting a London Pass (has anybody heard of this before?), and it conveniently includes a free tour!

Well met, goobster.

lm  ·  243 days ago  ·  link  ·  


When I got married, sure there were difficulties, but we also had a really strong sense of "we're in this together" that encouraged us to sort those difficulties out. So, maybe you won't run across "first year blues" at all if you've got the right attitude going in to this whole marriage thing?

francopoli  ·  243 days ago  ·  link  ·  

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