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Devac  ·  1031 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: [Trip Report] Combat Field Training 2017

How the hell do you keep yourself going? What motivates you?

I would like you to know that every time I think about quitting one of my majors or switching to something easier, I recall some of your posts. Afterwards, I feel like a giant wuss to even let myself think such things and get extra motivation. Respect, man.

nowaypablo  ·  1031 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Nothing seems difficult at all once you've accomplished it and you're looking back. So I don't think anything I did is really that difficult, because it isn't! It's just about staying in the shit until you're out, and having the best time that you can. Pain is temporary, to beat the dead cliche.

Most importantly: nobody does it alone! Nobody, ever. There are people around you that will be willing to help you and you should do your best to make sure they succeed as well. If you really don't think you can make it through something alone, you probably should be asking someone for help. You'd be surprised how willing people are to help you succeed.

My ass is being saved by kids one minute and I'm saving their ass the next. In the field I check my buddies constantly to make sure they stay hydrated, but also that their sense of humor is intact. My buddy will do a foot check after a long day of moving in slopping wet boots to make sure I'm avoiding trench foot, but also throw a giant fucking brown recluse spider at my face an hour later to make sure I'm keeping my bearing and my sanity.

So for me, I like to keep things lighthearted and force myself to be enthusiastic, don't take shit too seriously because it's all really a game, so play it and have fun. One of my leader's reviews on me said: "Always shows enthusiasm, even when he's faking it." And if that works, then it fuckin works!

Devac  ·  1031 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm pretty confident about my abilities until I make a mistake and everything gets out of hand. You do make a really good point, though. In retrospect, everything I've done feels trivial. Guess my problem is more about not being able to keep my cool.

Now that conclusion feels trivial! Thanks. ;)

    You'd be surprised how willing people are to help you succeed.

This doesn't really match my experiences with my peers (would rather fail than accept my help, would rather be smug than help me), but I guess it fits a few other people with who I study. I'll take a leap of faith since if both you and klein say stuff like this, then there has to be some truth to it. Thanks again.

nowaypablo  ·  1031 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Well, getting help from your peers if your peers aren't readily available is something to be prepared for too. If you're desperate for assistance, offer someone some pizza or some shit. I know I'll do anything for pizza.

If I was in a leadership position and needed someone to take literal weight off someone else who was clearly having a bad time, I sometimes had to motivate them with an incentive. I earned myself 3 milkshakes and a fuckload of various nicotine products because my peers knew the ways to my heart.

Just stuff to think about.