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comment by tacocat
tacocat  ·  297 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: June 28, 2017

He already violated the terms set in the divorce papers. If it was up to me he'd lose his house and job but I understand the difficulty for her in being vindictive in the way I would prefer.

kleinbl00  ·  297 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Vindictive gets you nowhere. The goal of divorce is to get the irritant out of your clamshell as soon as possible because while we all love to look at pearls, nobody wants to make them.

You can't move on with someone else until the ex gives up the mental real estate, and that's so much easier without conflict.