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user-inactivated  ·  2475 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Lil's Book of Questions: How Can I Develop a Life that Feels Worthy as a Single Person?

Three thoughts.

There's a part of me that always gets excited to say the words "My wife" because the hidden meaning in that is that someone values me enough to put up with my shit for the rest of my life. That's a lot of value.

My sense of self worth is partially external and partially internal. Externally, I believe the world is an amazingly beautiful place with so many exciting and wonderful things going on, even though sometimes we have a hard time seeing them. Internally, I am driven to do what I can, when I can, to reflect and perpetuate the sense of wonder I feel back into the world, so others can feel it too. Sometimes I forget to do that, because I'm often crabby, but when I do, I feel better about both myself and the world.

A good work ethic is an important part of self worth. A job or a career as a social status is a crumby measurement of worth. There is a difference.





kleinbl00  ·  2475 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I've been married eight years and I still call my wife "my girlfriend." I also talk about earning "boyfriend points." I think I enjoy the precariousness of knowing I could blow it and lose her, and I think that boyfriend points sound more interesting and debonair than husband points. You get boyfriend points by bringing flowers. You get husband points by unclogging the toilet.