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user-inactivated  ·  190 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Can We Learn About Privacy From Porn Stars?

So, you figure it's the porn that improves one's self-esteem etc., and not those characterics already being high that lead one to perform in porn?




am_Unition  ·  190 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Great question. Probably some of both. It'd be no small feat to figure out how much of each.

It's also a self-reported study, but I'm sure there's more than just a little validity to it.

user-inactivated  ·  190 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I had a friend who was very interested in sex - in the act as well as in the study of it on a personal level. Enjoying it, learning tricks, learning kinks. Said once she would be interested in doing sex ed - something that doesn't exist our, comparatively rural part of Russia, but something she might find in Germany, where she was aiming the whole time.

I asked her a few times: why wouldn't she do striptease or porn? She was eager to do both with her man, after all. She wasn't interested. My guess is - it's the publicity part that scared her off: she didn't want people to think of her as a slut. Otherwise, I think she would've made quite a career doing something she loves.

She was a happy kinda girl, now that I think of it.

am_Unition  ·  186 days ago  ·  link  ·  

First and foremost, consent is probably the sexiest thing about sex. Following that, I think sex is something we've all gotta figure out on our own, man. No two people approach it in the exact same fashion. Follow your heart, and maybe your head quite a bit, too.

Yeah, I don't even feel qualified to say anything else, but I enjoyed thinking about it to myself, so thanks for that.

user-inactivated  ·  186 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I appreciate the thought but am not sure what in my comment brought them up in your mind.

am_Unition  ·  186 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Me neither. I'm in the middle of a software update, sorry.

user-inactivated  ·  186 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Oh, I see. It can be an orgy, that's true.

am_Unition  ·  186 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Whatever that means, I totally agree. It can be an orgy.