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blackbootz  ·  2521 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: May 3, 2017

    I'm increasingly more comfortable in my own skin which is a fairly novel feeling.

I wonder if this is what gradually getting older really means. Shit that tended to bother you stops bothering you. I already feel it to be true.





lil  ·  2521 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yup getting older hopefully means feeling more comfortable in your skin. That, and taking responsibility for your own part in your problems instead of blaming your parents, the universe, etc. Also adults can have dessert before dinner.

kleinbl00  ·  2521 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Hypothesis:

When we're younger, our validation is external - what our parents tell us, what our teachers tell us, what our classmates tell us. As we age and gain more responsibility, we not only lose the authorities in superior positions who can validate or criticize us, but our peer group diminishes dramatically.

We grow confident in our own skins because our own internal opinions remain strong while external forces grow weak.