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goobster  ·  2667 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: December 7, 2016

After a week of basically no Facebook, I can't go back to it for one reason: Pace.

I have realized that checking the Facebook feed habitually kept me in a constantly amped-up state, and if I didn't check it constantly I fell behind, and couldn't catch up.

After a week of no newsfeed I am calmer, I have an enormous amount of time available to me suddenly... I can't believe I spent that much time on it before, but maybe I did?

Life is better without Facebook.

I have logged in a couple of times to check comments on a thread I am participating in, and to see photos of my friends' kids, but no newsfeed for me... it's just a long string of useless garbage.

Weird.

So this week, Pubski, maybe just a nice tawny Port, to sip quietly in my chair as I watch the Pacific Northwest slip into the most gorgeous winter in memory...





Isherwood  ·  2667 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I've been off facebook for several years now and I was actually thinking of going back.

So many people use it to stay in touch that it's difficult to keep up with friends who moved away otherwise.

Though I did just order a bunch of christmas cards, so that might be a good alternative.

goobster  ·  2667 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That's why I didn't delete it. I have many friends all over the world who I want to keep in touch with, and FB is just a good tool for peeping into their lives.

What I did is change my behavior with FB, so I get more from it.

When I log in, I immediately click on my name to jump away from the Feed, and go straight to my profile. This way I can see if anyone has posted to my page or tagged me in anything I should see.

Then I type in specific people's names, to go to their profile, and see what is new with them.

It's a minor thing, but it gives ME agency and control, and puts me in the driver's seat with my interactions with FB. Rather than just passively scrolling through the Feed, I am actively looking for specific people, which feels much more genuine and "connected" to them.

"Hey friend, what have YOU been up to lately?"

This way I find is more honest, or something. Intentional.

And I do have a big cheat: My wife is always on FB. So if something happens, I know about it through her.

user-inactivated  ·  2667 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Reading through the past couple weeks your experience brought me to delete the shortcut in my browser. I have plenty of other places to habitually check instead that have more meaning. Thanks?