Hanging with my nephew last night and his friend dropped the N-word.... This is a 23 year old kid working on a university degree. He must not have gotten the memo that it's 2016(almost 2017) and that this kind of language, and more importantly, that kind of mindset is ridiculously and tragically wrong.
So, this is a bit embarrassing in hindsoght, but could you elaborate on what was discussed? My last roommate would do the exact thing with the same argument: "I'm not a racist." Despite using it to explicitly reference black people, when I hear that argument I can't help but be dumbfounded. Raging doesn't help the situation so I take the sloth's approach and back off to avoid blowing up on him. The weirdest thing is that it's coming from a fellow Jew of all people which gets me all the more riled up...