I have less than 50 pages left in Helter Skelter (which crocks in at over 600 and which I've managed to plow through like a mad person in the past 10 days). That's exciting! Now I've read two whole books back to back, viciously, viscously, whatever. I'm hoping to tack on a third to this reading streak. I have a copy of Charles Porter's A Dog of the South which someone on Hubski recommended, broadly, a dog's (heh) age ago. Who was it? Was it you? Speak up. I am slowly falling behind on being ahead in my Rolling Stones coursera, but I plan to make up on that today. Geez it's been a busy several few weeks and it kind of sucks. I am looking forward to having the whole day to myself today. I have also signed up for History of Rock, so I need to start on that. Today I have thankfully, few few few meetings, and while I have work to do that I will do, I'm going to get it done when I get it done, whether that's inside or out of my "regular working hours" or no. First thing this morning, though, I'm going to finish the shit out of Helter Skelter. In about 50 days I'll be moving in with my girlfriend. It's been a long time since I've lived with a significant otter and I'd argue it was a terrible decision when I did it before. My ears are open, Hubski: what's your advice on living with someone y'also love? Is there any? I would be delighted, enchanted, and tickled to hear your thoughts. I WOULD ALSO APPRECIATE ANY CONVERSATION THAT ISN'T ABOUT POLITICS BECAUSE SERIOUSLY WE ALL GET IT, THANKS. My Facebook feed is literally destroyed right now to the point where, why bother checking? It's ad nauseum and I need a cereal serious break.
Communicate. Be honest. Listen. Allow yourselves to have small arguments to prevent them from becoming big arguments. Your living space no longer belongs to either of you as individuals exclusively. It now belongs to you as a couple. Live in it with consideration for yourself as an individual, for your SO as an individual, and for the both of you as a couple. All three share equal importance. If this becomes a serious, long term relationship, you're gonna piss each other off. You're gonna get bored with each other. You're gonna be ridiculously happy with each other. You're gonna scare each other. This is part of being in a relationship. This is part of sharing your life with someone. Embrace it all, because more often than not, even when it doesn't seem like it, all of those feelings come from a very strong, very good place in your heart. Have fun.Hubski: what's your advice on living with someone y'also love? Is there any? I would be delighted, enchanted, and tickled to hear your thoughts.
Be ready and willing to be wrong, put yourself in their shoes first, and recognize that apologies are brave. get out of the habit of "Hey do you want to see my" and replace it with "Hey can I show you my." Pay close attention to her pet peeves and respect them militantly. You might think it's silly that the toilet paper must go one direction. Doesn't matter. The important part is the "must." Try to leave everything cleaner than you found it. Listening and commiserating counts more than problem solving. The time to talk about chores or money or anything else is when you're both calm and happy, not as a double-down over who didn't do the dishes. Remember that thinking, feeling people fight and the fight is rarely about what the fight's about. Let the fight happen, get it out, and then work to get back to happy again. Most people process disputes about society amongst society. This is everyone asking for a "I'm not crazy, right?" gutcheck. Sure - maybe you don't want to hear it. I've noticed that your preferred method of processing is "ignore it." So ignore it. Doesn't mean the rest of us have to. You're literally complaining that Facebook is not suitably entertaining you today and c'mon. You're better than that.My ears are open, Hubski: what's your advice on living with someone y'also love?
I WOULD ALSO APPRECIATE ANY CONVERSATION THAT ISN'T ABOUT POLITICS BECAUSE SERIOUSLY WE ALL GET IT, THANKS.
You don't need any advice. Living with someone you love isn't something you have to figure out any sort of trick to navigate. It's how you figure out if you're actually compatible. It's a means not an end. If you can't live together it's not a failure but a realization imo.My ears are open, Hubski: what's your advice on living with someone y'also love? Is there any? I would be delighted, enchanted, and tickled to hear your thoughts.
Have you acquired any more Rollling Stones albums? I never really got into them, but one or two albums show up in my modest collection. Let It Bleed and maybe one more.
I have not! I have only about 5 or 6 left of the studio albums (prior to 1990 - I do not think I even want 97's "Bridges to Babylon" or 05's "A Bigger Bang" - 89's "Steel Wheels" coming in as a major "iffy"). Remnant are: Album #: 1. The Rolling Stones (US/UK) 2. 12 x 5 (US only) 5. December's Children(1) 6. Aftermath(1) 13. It's Only Rock'n'Roll (1) : These albums I have seen around often enough to infer they are easy to grab but not, perhaps, in the price range I would prefer to pay.