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comment by snoodog
snoodog  ·  2829 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: July 20, 2016

The trick to successful dating to to no over-communicate. Try not to verbalize anything that can be communicated by other means. Especially relationship expectation. When my wife and I started dating she verbalized a lot of expectations that I misunderstood. I mostly ignored them and told her she should date other people because I could not provide what she had verbally asked for. Well it turned out that she didnt actually want what she had verbalized and was trying to communicate something else entirely to what I understood at the time. I only found that out about 5 years later after we got married and were talking about it casually.