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dingus  ·  1876 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Vi Hart: On Gender

My reaction to people who are outside the norm -- gay, lesbian, transgender, whatever... is to just accept it and move on. I really don't give a damn whether you're a man, woman, or a trigendered pyrofox(well, calling yourself a trigender pyrofox would probably get a laugh from me. I'm pretty open-minded but crap like that is where I draw the line). Your identification doesn't tell me anything about you as a person, except maybe that you're off-limits for dating or that you've got a different emotional mindset from me.

And, like ViHart, I tend to cynically assume that people are using their identities as an attention-getting tool. Caitlyn Jenner leaves a bad taste on my mouth because I feel she cashed out on her identity, even if her real motivations are completely different. I guess I'm just wired to assume that everyone thinks the same way I do.





ulyssesinacave  ·  1875 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    And, like ViHart, I tend to cynically assume that people are using their identities as an attention-getting tool.

Isn't that sorta the point though. Your identity is an expression of who you are, and the goal is not to express your identity in an empty room; you want others to see/understand/connect-to who you are as a person.

Don't get me wrong, I think the peope who feel the need to shout their identities are overbearing, annoying, and exhausting. But I also think we all want that attention that is human connection.