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lil  ·  3150 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How and why did you become committed?

    I'm realizing that once this contract is up there's nothing stopping me from jumping ship and going somewhere else and changing jobs
Note carefully the above sentence -- It's a contract job. They have NO commitment to you. They have put you in a fluid situation. If they made a commitment to you, you might be thinking differently. cgod wrote this:
    When you start looking to settle down forever you should have few doubts in your choice, having finally found a person you don't want to live without.
well, yeah, maybe -- but that person can turn around the next day and say they want to live without you.

and then you pick yourself up again and start all over again.

I wonder if we can think about commitment in terms of skills and issues that sustain you while everything else changes. Eventually one might find a welcoming community where those skills and issues are valued. I agree with dashnhammit that at some point it's a good idea to stay in one place for a while.

Could you shout out to me when you post a new music blog - I just tracked back and saw that I missed a few.





tla  ·  3150 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Note carefully this sentence -- It's a contract job. They have NO commitment to you.

Not to mention that companies in general expect unfaltering loyalty from staff, but rarely show any loyalty to staff, even permanent staff.

ButterflyEffect  ·  3150 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    They have NO commitment to you.

Well, kind of. This is a training program where the goal is to be fully prepared to move up in the company at the end of it. Job placement is currently more or less guaranteed, but it's not guaranteed that you'll end up in your department of choice or your shift of choice. Both of which might present issues, but again, in the future.

    I wonder if we can think about commitment in terms of skills and issues that sustain you while everything else changes.

I'm trying to follow this. What, to you, would be skills and issues that would fall into this? I will definitely give you a shoutout, thanks for staying interested!

lil  ·  3150 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    What, to you, would be skills and issues that would fall into this?
For example, I'm committed to being, say, a teacher and a writer. I would want to find myself a location where I could be those things. I'm also committed to being a mother and a daughter, so I shouldn't go too far from the location where those roles play out.

I think, though, a bigger question might be this: How long should I give a location/job/relationship a chance before bailing out? Location especially, because bailing out of a location will also involve bailing out of the job and often the relationship in that place.

I once left a location I loved in order to bail out of a relationship. I didn't feel capable of just moving down the street - had to leave the city, province, territory.

Anyway, there are no universal answers to the questions you pose, but thinking and talking about it is probably useful.