I have every expectation that it will make me look GREAT. not. Seriously, though - there's this bizarre phenomenon that happens when people navigate from a big website to a small one. The big website discourse is generally "I HAVE AN OPINION!" "I disagree with your opinion." "YOU ARE AN ASSCAMEL!" "DIAFN00B!" the end. The small website discourse goes "I HAVE AN OPINION!" "I disagree with your opinion." "YOU ARE AN ASSCAMEL!" "Uhm... this isn't how I choose to spend my time. Good day." ...which leaves the transplant grasping for combat because they just aren't sure what to do, so they decide that the problem was Teh Dramaz wasn't big enough so they double down. Most of them go away after a week or so; the fact that Hubski is a lousy place for flame wars leaves a certain segment of the internet completely at sea. But before they get there, we're left dealing with a group of people that simply don't know how to de-escalate an argument.
I've definitely been having to keep reigns on those knee-jerk reactionary type responses, having migrated over here from Reddit in the past week. I tell myself: Take a moment, breathe. Do not engage the trolls. Be nice. Don't take it personally. This website or the things said on it don't constitute the entirety of your reality.
More importantly: if you've been misunderstood, explain yourself. If you feel insulted, say that you feel insulted. If the person meant to insult you, you know you can ignore each other peacefully. If they didn't, there's nothing to build friendship quite like working through a misunderstanding.
Do you not feel like it may be beneficial to respond with the knowledge of how to deal with it? I'm not talking about myself - I fucked up - but others are simply doing their best and don't know any better yet. If one has the beneficial knowledge, aren't they supposed to share it, for it will benefit everybody?But before they get there, we're left dealing with a group of people that simply don't know how to de-escalate an argument.
HE DOES!
When I got here I was in an argument with him, and he explained exactly everything about small town internet to me. ' Namely, not everyone has to interact with you. They will if they want to, but they have no obligation to do so.