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    pay for my girlfriend's master's degree,
-Is it cynical of me that reading that made me think, "oh gosh, that's probably a bad idea?"

If I had paid for my college girlfriends masters degree, I'd be pretty bitter about it at this point of my life. I mean, we had some great times together but that's no small investment and I bet I would have thought it meant we'd be together forever and well.... we weren't.

Good luck though and it's sure nice of you to think of someone other than yourself.





humanodon  ·  3262 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Is it cynical of me that reading that made me think, "oh gosh, that's probably a bad idea?"

Nah, same reaction, but we don't know how deep that goes either . . .

Even so, taking on someone else's debt is a huge financial decision that should not be taken lightly.

thenewgreen  ·  3262 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Even so, taking on someone else's debt is a huge financial decision that should not be taken lightly.
Yes. That's a much better way of putting it. That said, I took on my wife's debts when we were married and vice-versa. Perhaps he's not down with the institution of marriage but would still like to care for her via helping financially? So yeah, we don't know...

Edit: humanodon -One thing I DO KNOW is that I'd love to read some new poetry from you. You been writing?

randomuser  ·  3262 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Not cynical, but you should probably make her into a wife with part of that $100k haha.

Reef3  ·  3262 days ago  ·  link  ·  

No, that's a totally reasonable reaction. I would ordinarily agree with you, and I may be naive, but that's one of the first things that came to mind. We are at the point in our relationship where we are seriously discussing marriage and our financial situation and what that would look like. Even if we had a horrible falling out in the future, I think I would feel comfortable with my decision.

The smarter plan would probably be to just invest the money and let the interest work for me. Assuming everything works out, we can have a happy retirement together

Perhaps imagining a $100k bonus has just put me in an exceedingly benevolent and optimistic mood!

_refugee_  ·  3262 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It depends. It would be worth comparing the interest being charged on those student loans vs. the potential ROI you could get from investing the same amount. If she has 0% loans or loans at a very low rate, then it might make more sense to invest instead. However, (I'll just assume for this that you are married and treat her debt as truly yours, and therefore sidestep the ethical/'should I?' questions) it's likely she has loans at interest rates of 6.8% (standard gov't loan interest AFAIK) or higher (if private) in which case you wouldn't be able to earn the money back via investment, and you should save yourself on all that interest by paying off immediately with the $100k. I feel like the "standard" ROI that a person is told they can "expect" is around 6%, maybe up to 8%. I have seen wider-ranging numbers but I think anything above that gets to the "counting your chickens way before they have hatched and maybe before they have laid eggs" point of reality.

I like reading personal finance advice and stuff. I'm mostly crap at managing my money but I still find it all interesting! :)