Pretentiousness is probably a matter of interpretation: one of the recently mentioned on hubski cognitive biases.
"don’t be dull and boring and
pretentious, don’t be consumed with self-
And self-fucking-love -- yes, we shouldn't be "consumed" by it -- but we do love our words, especially when they make us laugh out loud.
You don't have to take his opinion about anything. He was a suicidal sot. I guess you missed this last week.
Glad to hear you are up  and about again, spinal tap notwithstanding. I was so scared when I had to get a spinal tap... if the doctor taps a millimeter away from the mark. . .