Well, as long as we don't think you're an asshole, you're safe here.

I don't find anything really wrong with either of your situations - there may have been ways to approach your thoughts more tactfully depending on the person, sure - and two examples do not a human or even a persona make.

Sometimes other people act irrationally. Sometimes, they react even more irrationally when you try to point out that their actions aren't making sense. I guess, some people are more ruled by their emotions than logic, whereas others prefer the yardstick of logic. With those that prefer emotions, I have found, they do not really appreciate when you bring a lot of logic in, especially when it's quashing their own emotional output.

I think it is a matter of learning that some approaches with people are not going to be effective, as opposed to being an asshole. My mother's irrational. Me pointing it out to her does not help anybody. For instance, once, she wanted me to get a job, so she took my car away until I could get a job. (Problem being: Cannot drive to job sites or interviews without vehicle.) Clearly I eventually managed, kind of swindling the car out of her, but point is some people don't make sense or prioritize it, and they don't appreciate it when it's pointed out to them especially when they are either already emotionally aroused or invested.

It's like your friend who's not reliable, except these other friends, maybe they're emotional. And you just have to learn to deal with that aspect of them and expect it.

Don't be too sensitive. ;) We like you all right.