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comment by ButterflyEffect
ButterflyEffect  ·  3742 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Lil's Book of Questions: What Do You Remember from Your Schooldays? Part II

Oh yes, I absolutely tailor my personality based on the situation. Most people seem to do that, and from my experiences it results in a bland and usually homogeneous workplace (these are engineering places that I've worked at). Part of the problem is that I've worked in established industries where the companies I was with were essentially boys clubs filled with 50 year old guys who didn't care to try to relate to younger people.

The more recent one made it clear that employees weren't really supposed to be doing much other than working or putting on the appearance of working while at work. So if I had nothing to do, I sat there and tried to look busy. The other two were better, but there was still an air about it. I'm exactly the same way as you with functioning better when more tasks are at hand. Even my class grades have historically been better in periods where I'm busiest. I'm much more productive when there are a lot of different things going on at once.

    Romantic relationships are cages. Your friends tie you down. Work is just the popular thing to resent.

I disagree with this. Romantic relationships are cages if it's not a relationship where the people aren't growing together as people and expanding their horizons. A relationship should never be a cage, and if it is it should probably end unless there's an effort to fix whatever issues are causing that. I've never had friends tying me down. They haven't prevented me from going to college, from going to Europe, from investing in my future and exploring my passions. It's a different culture in that aspect due to where I go to college. People are constantly moving to work in different places because it's required of many of our programs. Due to this it's accepted that you may not see your friends for months on end, and most people have learned how to maintain friendships from afar. Work brings much less joy and fulfillment to me than friends, family, relationships, or many other things. I'm not sure if it means I've chosen the wrong profession, but the lack of joy (comparatively) is the major reason that I'm resentful of work.





_refugee_  ·  3741 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Romantic relationships are cages.

    I disagree with this.

Let us say, I am currently in a bit of a mood.