Don't speak ill of the dead you might say
https://www.wired.com/2017/10/geeks-guide-harlan-ellison/
Dude legitimately enjoyed being an asshole. That's just one story
I was at Octavia Butler's memorial. We called Harlan Ellison because he wanted to say something but he didn't want to fly up. Harlan Ellison proceeded to talk about his golf game for 20 minutes.
I've never seen anyone hung up on at a wake.