I just have to wonder, what is with the continued harassment and trolling via community hastags? Also, does everyone have me muted or blocked because I follow Grendel? I always thought highly of the Hubski community, but it's been extremely passive aggressive lately.

Also, as a gay man who has done "online dating," the first thing I look for, or ask about, is stats, aka height and weight. I use quotes because already being in an open relationship, it's not so much dating that I'm interested in, just sex. I don't think any less of non-hwp people as friends, but I just don't find extra cushion to be a sexual turn-on.