The first time my mother buried a husband (my father), it was so so hard. After 10 years, she remarried at 53 and had another very happy marriage until my step-father died 13 years later. She said it was still very very hard. The only difference, she said, was that she knew she'd survive. She never remarried. She didn't want to bury any more husbands. My blog isn't about that so much, but maybe it is.

thenewgreen:

What a fantastic question lil, and a wonderful response from your friend.

    "I can't say I know more than I did back then, but I have more experience not knowing it."
-that's a very good synopsis of what I've experienced. I have mentioned this to you before I think, but one time when going to a funeral of a close family friend I told my father that I didn't like the idea of going because funerals are always so awkward. I asked him "dad, does it ever get any easier, any less uncomfortable?" He replied, "when you are older you realize that everyone is uncomfortable; it's not just you."

That to me is a big part of why being older is easier. You realize that all of your insecurities, fallibility's etc. are shared in everybody else. You know that even the most seemingly-confident people are just as scared as you are. You know that even the most beautiful people think they're ugly sometimes. We are all a bunch of weirdo's :)

I think it gets much easier actually.


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