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_refugee_  ·  860 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Virtual Hubski Meetup No. 12, approximately the 11th Hubski anniversary too!

bros i fucking bought a house

_refugee_  ·  908 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Trascendental Realty Issue #2 - Haunted House Real Estate Comic [OC]

thank you!!

it kind of was. the longer story is that i had started coloring in black with charcoal and red by hand just to see and make things pop. The longest story is that I think I will prefer to color these in digitally if/when I do so.

It's so hard to have these big pages that are complete and, well, pretty good -- certainly I enjoy looking at them -- in black ink and to contemplate all the potential missteps that coloring could wreak on them!

I don't know that I will redraw the whole thing digitally, though if i don't, it will create complications with digital coloring. I knew if I waited until I had this colored to share it, it would probably be another year! :)

_refugee_  ·  934 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What Can We Expect From Kenenisa Bekele in Berlin? No One Knows For Sure

Shalane did pretty ok! Negative splits. I think she's probably feeling good for someone with 5 more of those things ahead of her...

_refugee_  ·  934 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What Can We Expect From Kenenisa Bekele in Berlin? No One Knows For Sure

Didn't he end up going out too fast and bombed? Saw a tweet about it (I'm on the running tweeter now folx) OK -- placed third. I don't call that a bomb at all, esp for a 39 yo

_refugee_  ·  1066 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: The Pandemic is Over, the Deaths are Still Here

Hmm. Let me ask my brother and his wife, who actually work at Trader Joe’s, how many people they are seeing unmasked.

It’s likely to be at least a somewhat-more anecdotally-useful perspective, considering yours is that of a consumer who only goes to TJ’s sometimes and only gets to see a sliver of what the experience is actually like, as determined by time and place of visit, etc, etc.

Oh look — per their anecdotal reports which, despite being anecdotal, are more likely to be accurate than your own anecdata due to simply more time spent at the store and having a more extended perspective than that of a consumer looking to spend more than 15 minutes in a grocery — Signage about mask requirements has been 100% taken down as ordered by corporate

And their reports of maskless consumers are up around 5x. Btw, they live in the PNW just like you. It’s a different state, sure, but what else is really different?

Maybe you just must’ve missed it? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

You cannot take your outside experience as a consumer who is inside a grocery store for a minimal amount of time to be a true accounting of the difference this CDC announcement has made for the average grocery or retail worker. Full, fucking, stop.

It’s real cool that you didn’t observe a change in behavior when you went out and visually observed the situation for a coupla minutes.

It’s way different 24/7. Shut up about it

_refugee_  ·  1069 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Fully Vaccinated People Can Stop Wearing Masks Indoors And Outdoors, CDC Says

Seriously, no shares on the post for all of your, any of this discussion? For shame on all of you

_refugee_  ·  1071 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: May 12, 2021

Today I told my boss that if my department was going full time remote I needed to know what teams at (my place of employment) were going back to the office, because I needed to know what opportunities there would be for me before I decided to leave the company. That was in an email.

Within an hour she was pinging me telling me the unofficial news of what my department plans to do and assuring me it wouldn't be full time remote. and yadda, yadda

I mean, like, I was serious. I don't think she wants to lose me. But what I know for sure is I need to be HEARD AS HELL if management is even considering this decision. It's one thing if management makes a bad decision it's another thing if they make it under advisement from people who think it's a decision that sucks.

That stinks for your team. I think it's entirely reasonable for you to feel bad about possibly leaving your job and especially leaving your boss in a hard spot. Sometimes people get handed a shit stick, and it sucks. It sounds like you tried to raise a flag on the play a few times. And it sounds like there were a few other flags that maybe your manager could've twigged to -- the overtime, the time off. We actually have a whole training for managers that they have to take every year about recognizing exhaustion.

It's going to be a FUN KIND OF STRESS when you move for sure!! It won't even be stress. It's going to be hella exciting! When I picked up and moved multiple states to somewhere in quarantine where I couldn't even try to get to know anyone, I really thought there was going to be a lot more crying in my apartment alone...at night or in the rain or something....like maybe weekly...about how sad and alone i was....I thought there would be good times but i thought there would be a lot of that first also.

Turns out no. There ain't been NONE OF THAT ABOVE BOOOLLL shit. Life is scary. Risk it! It's going to pay out so much for you in the end. The next great adventure -- i'll drink to that.

_refugee_  ·  1080 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: 432nd Weekly "Share Some Music You've Been Into Lately"

I've been obsessed

_refugee_  ·  1081 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Picking up a new dog tomorrow

Yay moxie!!

_refugee_  ·  1085 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 28, 2021

yes absolutely this about the mj use.

there's so many vectors! no wonder it can be so hard

_refugee_  ·  1085 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 28, 2021

it's like 20-21 at this point! i would say i also want mine to be reasonably coverable so i am making the sacrifices of the upper parts of limbs first because uhmmmm one of the reasons i get tattoos is to show them off so other people know i am badass, duh! so it's kind of not fun when they're all hidden.

with this positioning i can ostensibly hide my tattoos at work.

but also i have inner finger and ring and wrist tattoos

sooo

I just really, really love tattoos. And I love the way an Am trad rose looks on a hand. there are some tattoos i don't love and won't probably ever get, a throat tattoo is really not for me in any capacity. but i'm absolutely planning on finishing out the inner finger set at some point, kind of cuz once in i'm in you know? they haven't fired me yet and i've got 3 of them done. also theoretically only in imaginary land my dream 2nd career is a tattoo artist (i just don't know how much I'd actually enjoy...you know, customers) so like yup. that's how i feel about tattoos. i fuckin' love 'em.

_refugee_  ·  1085 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 28, 2021

So, dating.

I had one first date this past Sunday and I have 4 more lined up for this Thursday-Sunday. No double booking people -- at least not of yet. I'm approaching dating rather seriously this go round. The goal: find someone who I get along with and share a lot in common with, who I want to hang out with a lot!

It's interesting, this approach, because I've never quite tried something like this before. I'm using Hinge, thanks to the advice of several people, and it's going much, MUCH better than the playing field on OKCupid, so thank you for your recommendations. I've actually stepped a bit too far into the swimming pool as I have surplus of gentlemen who would like to meet. However, I'm absolutely refining and updating my selections for this weekend as various users seem less likely to pan out. I'm learning a great deal about some basic attributes I'm looking for in someone. For instance:

- i prefer someone who has experience in some kind of office environment mainly because if you don't you have no idea what the fuck i do and it's really hard to explain it; at least if you work in an office environment, i might be able to begin to explain it effectively

- also having a similar job = similar schedules, which is a big thing. i was awakened to the reality of this one when a bartender messaged me at 3 am hoping i kept "bartender hours." no, buddy, i'm sorry, but i almost never will message you back at 3 am. and i like to wake up at 7. most bar shifts start around the time i get off work you know?

- it's interesting how the pandemic has really diversified people's experiences of the past 18 months, and to be honest i'm going to have more in common with people who had similar experiences than i did. i have most in common with other people who went to full time work from home.

- obviously, i need someone with similar tattoo appreciation as I have, which i realized today when i messaged my thursday night date about tattoos and he had a decidedly lukewarm response!! something i didn't even THINK about until it happened!

- at this point, at this age, a guy with a kid or an ex wife is actually more interesting as a potential option than someone who's made it to 30 and no one has been willing to commit to yet

it's a game of quality AND quantity. there are a lot of great guys out there but once you start sorting out all the "obviously incompatible lifestyle" folks out the playing field dwindles. I am MOST excited for my date on Saturday. This person really has almost everything I am interested in...

....but now i realized i have to check about tattoos :)

_refugee_  ·  1085 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 28, 2021

Tattoo today. Back later with evidence

Keto diet is about extremely limiting carbohydrates so that the body switches to an alternative form of energy, ketones. I would think this would be mean we should practice carb limiting — not necessarily all out fasting — but Mk has previously come out in favor of fasting and would be interested to hear his take.

so I should be suspicious of the guys on hinge who are clearly using more emoji than average/others, because it's another way to engender a false familiarity? ;) i mean like, this is both a facetious question but NOT a facetious question!

_refugee_  ·  1091 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: DC could become a State... soooo....

The state formerly known as?

_refugee_  ·  1091 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: DC could become a State... soooo....

Washington Columbia State?

_refugee_  ·  1092 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 21, 2021

I had a wonderful weekend hanging out with very good friends. It's funny. You don't realize how much of a narrow echo chamber you may have become ensnared into until you hang out with people from outside. It's so good to be reminded of the variety of opinions and the variety of people that can know you, and know you well, when you step outside of it.

I have been setting boundaries with my Nosey Neighbor and it has been going well!

I have begun Zee Online Dating. I tried OKC briefly, not much luck, am moving on to Hinge. Here's to hopefully meeting new people in person soon.

I drew some more badass tattoo inspired art. Hope y'all like it, Hubski !! --

_refugee_  ·  1093 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Happy 420!!!

today was a day of pajamas and trash tv watching, it was perfect

_refugee_  ·  1099 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 14, 2021

Back on about Amazon drivers and pee bottles again? I agree. It's a hardship that's very easy to sympathize with.

_refugee_  ·  1099 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Johnson & Johnson Blood Clots Make mRNA Vaccines Look Great - The Atlantic

If it weren't for STDs there'd be a whole lot of room for jokes about single use plastics and male hormonal birth control.

Unfortunately STDs just kinda negate the whole line of hilarity you could pull from that angle, at least so far as I've been able to think through it ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

_refugee_  ·  1099 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 14, 2021

Ah yes, Emory.

Full points to anyone who gets this reference.

_refugee_  ·  1100 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post:

I hope I don’t have thrombocytopenia!!

_refugee_  ·  1101 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: You Won’t Remember the Pandemic the Way You Think You Will

what the fuck is this article i started reading to cry about the early pandemic and now i'm looking at fucking story graphs

_refugee_  ·  1103 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski April 7th 2021

y'all had me all fucking freaked out and i've been fine, the worst i've got is a bit of soreness in the injection site

SEVERAL HOURS OF GOOGLING FOR DATA ABOUT VACCINES AND SIDE EFFECTS is what i mean i tell ya

i tell ya!!!

_refugee_  ·  1104 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski April 7th 2021

12 hours in I’m ok. Will report back

_refugee_  ·  1104 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski April 7th 2021

Ugh but my street lamps will miss me

_refugee_  ·  1104 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski April 7th 2021

I know that I was mostly trying to humblebrag about my two in one dose

_refugee_  ·  1104 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski Virtual Meetup No. 9

join us

_refugee_  ·  1104 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski Virtual Meetup No. 9

I double booked in meatspace