i have a lot less life experience than either of you but i have a lot of this kind of experience specifically - wanting is something i can relate to. i wrote something the other day that i had been meaning to put on hubski so i'll put it here

Go attic-kept, unventured, unopened, arranged -

Patched up with perfume on cracked-lipped crevices

That caught man sticking:

Wishing:

Well,

I beat him brutal; he breathes out breasts,

I clot him steady; I cut him again.

I paint him sore; he takes it green -

Would that he had been ready:

the woman unwilling.

wanting the future is okay - it's okay to want to lose weight in the new year or want to buy a sports car. it would even be okay to have thoughts of "what if i left my wife to marry this lady i love" - i mean okay in terms of it not being inherently bad for you. but wanting the past is always going to be harmful to you because there's no way to change it. it might be fortune-cookie obvious to say it, but it's obvious because it's important. potential reality is addictive and indulging in it can only ever be hurtful

i don't know anything, all i know is that i know what you mean by mental storm