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ilex  ·  1546 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 29, 2020

It seems to me like this guy wants you in his wedding primarily because when something inevitably goes sideways, he wants to put the responsibility for unfucking that on you. You really don't owe him that. Also, it is pretty disrespectful to say, effectively, "let's reconcile but we're doing it on my timeframe so you can do a bunch of work to make my life easier." Yeah, it sucks that you have to be the one to say no here, but this guy is clearly the asshole for expecting you to do the work of sorting out the issues between you two by fucking July.