I mean, c'mon man. Hi, guys, what you been up to, I feel bad for being dishonest, I miss you though, even though this specific guy was a dick, here lemme link it. You wanna hang out and be friends? hang out and be friends. Welcome. Dredging up stuff to re-litigate it is the wrong move and you know it. Especially when you finish with "And sure, you could argue that maybe what I said wasn't that good, or that I was off-tone, or maybe the wording wasn't perfect, but... nah, not today." So you don't really want to talk about it, but you insist that we all hang onto it as context. It's your context, not ours. This is what I'm talking about: if you see others' contexts, rather than assuming they're all using yours, you cause fewer misunderstandings, which I'm certain is a desire of yours. Here I am, writing three paragraphs to justify the word "backhanded" in order to match your perspective - wanna try it on your own? It causes less animosity.