a sober guy once told me not to accidentally get hooked on heroin since i was such a rebel after i turned him down for (as i realized later) actually the third time (across various dating sites) in like 3 years. i made the mistake of trying to explain to him that i, as a person who definitely was drinking at the time of the message and still occasionally drinks now, and indulges in thc, felt i had a significantly different enough lifestyle from his that we didn't seem compatible.

honestly he had been hooked on heroin and has been clean for years now and does bodybuilding and until that part of the conversation i had really kind of admired him for what he'd done

but i know me and i know i want a partner who i can drink a bottle of wine with sometimes. or whatever. and i know i'd feel weird drinking around someone who didn't, which means in the long run i'd start to resent him for doing nothing. because it would be in my head -- but the point is that i today right now know what's in my head. and how my head works. and how my head would feel dating someone who is 100% sober. my head would feel uncomfortable.

so : i know we wouldn't work out. and i admired him, so i didn't want to diss him.

and then he basically said since he was such a polar opposite to my lifestyle i had just better be careful and blah blah and heroin and i was like wow you really said that man

the end

well actually i agnrily tweeted about it without naming names

and posted some name-redacted screenshots to my ig story

but then after that i just blocked him and that was it

the true end. that's life, it can be boring.