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oyster  ·  2289 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: December 20, 2017

I would bet a pitcher the next time you’re in Banff that you’re just afraid to really be vulnerable so your relationships don’t get to that next stage. What millennial doesnt have that problem, honestly ?

A guy I was seeing in the summer helped me realize this, and it was a casual thing the whole time. Basically if he didn’t want a relationship I did and the second I didn’t he wanted one. It just went back and forth. As long as the guy isn’t asking a whole lot of me emotionally I feel great and the second they want long term I think of every reason why it’s a bad idea without even realizing I’m doing it. Well now I notice when I’m doing it and I’ve been doing a pretty good job squashing those feelings and actually letting myself get close to somebody. You’ll figure out whatever is stopping you.