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user-inactivated  ·  2360 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: October 11, 2017

In an odd place with the lady friend, hearing back from her once every couple days rather than hours of late. The story I'm telling myself is that we left off in an awkward place last time we met (around a week ago now), but she's saying she's been busy with two huge presentations she's putting on today and next week. Doesn't compute to me, and I'm getting mixed messages from people in my life:

- "You barely know each other, what do you expect? You don't owe each other anything." Valid, nonetheless a bit saddening.

- "You don't want someone who isn't communicative. She's not worth your time." Seems like the other, equal and opposite, reaction.

I guess my question to pubski, how much benefit of the doubt is worth it? Extended an offer to a volunteer event where we'd be helping make food kits for people affected by Irma - which I know we're both invested in. My other guess is that this'll draw a clearer line. Bottom line: regardless of these to trains of thoughts, I'm still getting responses, so there's something. The week I stop getting anything, I guess I'll know - I'd like to not need to guess.

Despite advice to voice "This is the story I'm telling myself [...], does this ring true to you as well?", I think 3 dates might not warrant that level to exploration. That or I'm undervaluing those experiences. What a bunch of schmootz.