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kleinbl00  ·  2696 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: November 9, 2016

    My ears are open, Hubski: what's your advice on living with someone y'also love?

Be ready and willing to be wrong, put yourself in their shoes first, and recognize that apologies are brave.

get out of the habit of "Hey do you want to see my" and replace it with "Hey can I show you my."

Pay close attention to her pet peeves and respect them militantly. You might think it's silly that the toilet paper must go one direction. Doesn't matter. The important part is the "must."

Try to leave everything cleaner than you found it.

Listening and commiserating counts more than problem solving.

The time to talk about chores or money or anything else is when you're both calm and happy, not as a double-down over who didn't do the dishes.

Remember that thinking, feeling people fight and the fight is rarely about what the fight's about. Let the fight happen, get it out, and then work to get back to happy again.

    I WOULD ALSO APPRECIATE ANY CONVERSATION THAT ISN'T ABOUT POLITICS BECAUSE SERIOUSLY WE ALL GET IT, THANKS.

Most people process disputes about society amongst society. This is everyone asking for a "I'm not crazy, right?" gutcheck. Sure - maybe you don't want to hear it. I've noticed that your preferred method of processing is "ignore it."

So ignore it. Doesn't mean the rest of us have to. You're literally complaining that Facebook is not suitably entertaining you today and c'mon. You're better than that.