Can you give me an example of how would you approach people or build a conversation while you don't know them well using your approach? From what I understand, it's often a defense mechanism, a verbal wall between one and their company so as to not get wounded emotionally. It's among the very few things preventing people from connecting on a meaningful level even if they desire to: the wish to not be wounded again (because there's always an emotional trauma beforehand, whether a single short one or a long continuous one). So, no matter how annoying the verbal wall might be, you can't but feel at least somewhat sorry for them and commiserate on the pain they've received.Surely there are those who just want to run their mouths but I haven't really met very many who want to stay at the surface.