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    We've been struggling with trust issues because a month ago I tried to hide some money from him because I felt like he was watching me too carefully. Nothing to do with drugs or drug money but he doesn't believe that

In my perspective, this is kind of a huge problem. Trust and honesty are like number one In relationships for me so I would probably react similar.

The fact that this has happened more tHan once in a very short time period makes it insanely hard for someone, especially if that person gives you those things, like honesty, that you deny them for selfish reasons.

I know what it's like to be in pain and need pain killers and it's a terrible thing to be going through, so I'm sorry if that is a bit harsh, but I don't think any amount of pain gives you the right to be dishonest with someone you want trust you.

1. Talk to your doctor if you need more meds, if you're earnest and honest about what you need, doctors are usually pretty appeasing. That means telling them you're still in pain and need extra maintenance, not that you need more oxys/morphine(in my case)

2. Be honest with yourself. These dream idea drug setup deals are not ok, will make you feel terrible about yourself, and you will not get what you need.

3. If your guy stays around, be honest with him or don't get upset when he doesn't trust you, that not reasonable or realistic.

I'm sorry if this comment came across a bit negative, I'm just usually the person on the other side of this type of thing.

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