I attended a funeral recently that was a very sad affair as the person was quite young, the grief was overwhelming. The family members were going through something terrible, a feeling of loss that was as real and physical as the floor of the funeral home at which we all stared. Amidst the sorrow and tears there was a plan, the priest, the mourners even the hearse driver were part of a process. The religious icons, the prayers or words spoken, the coffin, flowers, the grave; were merely props, the process was what offered consolation. There were stages in the plan, and transitions, the actors played their part. It was tried and true. If you follow it, it will help you overcome. We haven't developed the same process for dealing with grief or loss on the social web yet but we will, because we need one. Without a process we will just stare at the floor.